1. Make a list.
When you find
yourself feeling critical of your beloved, sit down and make a list of "All
The Things I Still Love About My Mate." This will remind you of why you both
first fell in love.
Start spreading the news.
least once a day, compliment each other. Because everyone loves to hear
Learn what to say. (And how to listen.)
it comes to communication, men and women have different needs. Men need to hear
they've done a good job. So remember to compliment him for the things he does.
(Even if he doesn't do them that well.)
Women need to feel their man
is listening. Men can help by learning the "Mantra for Men" and practicing
it often, saying to themselves, again and again...
listen, don't give advice.
Just listen, don't
Just listen, don't give advice.
Learn to soothe frayed nerves.
your partner is having trouble coping -- either with the world or with you --
don't shout, don't pout, don't run away. Just turn to your mate and lovingly say,
"Honey, what do you need from me... right now?"
Give a little more.
of trying to get your way, try to give a little, then give a little more. In other
words: Practice thinking more "We" than "Me."
on the book ...
"Fairy Tales Can Come True: Just Not Every Day!"
J.S. Salt is
a pen name for Joel Saltzman, author of the book, "Shake That Brain!"
(Wiley, 2006). VIsit his website: www.shakethatbrain.com